Let me take you back to
1999.
Man, the pop landscape was different then! Bubblegum pop and boy bands ruled.
The first sparks of the post-grunge wastelands were forming from the abrupt
collapse of ska and the second resurgence of pop-punk. And hip-hop was, to be
blunt, light and airy and generally stupid as hell.
Enter Marshall Mathers III, otherwise known as Slim Shady, otherwise known as
Eminem. After his smash major debut with the demented Slim Shady LP, he was
looking to strike a darker tone with his next release, one that both confronted
his critics and haters head-on but one that also dove into darker, bleaker,
more terrifying neuroses he had kept bottled up for some time. And one of the
darkest of those neuroses was his critically damaged relationship with his
girlfriend/wife/ex-wife Kim. To say the relationship was ruined completely
beyond repair is probably understating it, but Eminem drove the final nails in
the coffin with a track that scandalized and shocked a nation of listeners:
'Kim'.
'Kim' is the sixteenth track on The
Marshall Mathers LP, and by then you've seen Eminem confront plenty of
his personal demons, but when it comes to 'Kim', there's a whole other level of
hatred and rage drenching this track. Eminem's voice cracks and breaks as he
screams epithets and venom through tears, and at that point you can't help but
feel a sick sort of dread as you know that there isn't just hatred here. No, if
there's a song that ever encapsulated the concept of the blinding blend of
hatred and obsessive love, it's 'Kim'. It's clear in this song that
there's absolutely no one in the right, not Kim and certainly not Eminem. It's
the domestic dispute from hell, and the most shocking thing about it is the
niggling chill that races down your spine as you realize that somewhere, at
some point, fragments of that screaming argument and domestic violence may have actually happened.
'Kim' is a really hard listen, but I recommend all music critics looking to test
their mettle and stomachs listen to it at least once. It sure as hell was
polarizing, raising even more protests as people saw 'Kim' as all the more
evidence of Eminem's dangerous misogyny. Things degenerated even further when
Eminem performed the song at a concert and then brutally stabbed a blow-up doll
likeness of 'Kim' in the song, an act that I've considered one of the worst
possible things Eminem ever could have done. While he had threatened violence
towards plenty of people on other tracks, 'Kim' was different. That song was personal, and while Eminem has
made his career off of airing his dirty laundry in public, 'Kim' was a
different extreme. And I'm not the only one who thought so - Kim herself
attempted suicide by slitting her wrists at the end of that show.
The point is that, as one of the most terrifying and gut-churning songs that
I've ever listened to in my life (and I've listened to a fair amount of
horrorcore rap and death metal, just to qualify this), 'Kim' somehow still
succeeds as a performance art piece. It's a vile, horrifying piece, let me make
that explicitly clear,
but it works because there are layers and complexity and Eminem does not hold
back, making one of the most open and revealing songs of his career. Do I enjoy
it? Fuck no. But I can't hate it because for all of its grotesque, sickening
reality, it works.
So when I listen to the two songs on Rihanna's Unapologetic, 'Nobody's
Business' and 'Love Without Tragedy/Mother Mary', two songs that directly
explore her relationship with Chris Brown, why don't I feel that it works
nearly as well, and is thus far easier to despise? Why would some people think
I'm giving Eminem a free pass (which I'm not, by the way) while dropping the
hammer down on both Rihanna and Brown?